What can you tell yourself that’ll boost your confidence? Let’s find out
When all seems lost and the world is somewhat in shambles, it can be easy to lose yourself amongst the noise. With lockdowns running rampant and the ever-present threat of disease, it can sometimes feel like there isn’t a moment to truly take a look and take stock of the things you’re most proud of.
In recent years, the use of positive affirmations started seeing a rise. Spearheaded primarily through influential individuals showing off their lifestyles in a more intimate way than ever before. Featured on some of these routines was the use of positive affirmations.
While it may seem like repetitive nonsense on the outside, studies have shown recently that the use of positive affirmations sees rates of depression and anxiety lowering considerably among those who frequent the practice. We’re not going to sit here and tell you to repeat the same garble over and over in the mirror until you’re better. Still, if you go into it with a clear and open mind, you’ll find some incredible results. When in doubt, keep these in mind:
Think slowly, carefully, and deeply about the words you speak during the affirmations.
And try to understand the meaning behind the words as you say them.
More important than anything else is that – you don’t literally have to say affirmations out loud – even thinking about them regularly will yield positive results.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. The gist is that while other people, events, and things are seemingly out of control – you can always count on your own self-resolve to get through it.
This one requires a bit further rumination to really etch out its meaning. Our lives are incredibly complex. It’s filled with the people we meet, the places we go to, and the experiences we feel. When something undesirable happens in life, even though all hope seems lost, it will lead to something good in the future. It’s practically an evitability.
While the surface seems quite simple, this affirmation requires a specific answer and response from the asker. If at any point during the process, you feel as though you’re lying to yourself – there you go – a problem needing a solution that you can discover.
Piggybacking on the comment mentioned above on the complexity of life – you’ll never know the impact you have on those around you. They may not say it to your face, but the effect you have on other people (the ones that do and do not like you) is often remarkable and commendable in its own right.
Now, you may be having trouble getting into the flow-state atmosphere with affirmations. If so, try to keep some of these at the back of your mind.
Don’t compare yourself to other people – they too have their own struggles and difficulties.
Even if nobody hears you at the moment, your thoughts, words and emotions matter.
At the end of the day, the only reality that matters is your own.
Suppose you think about it in a practical sense. In that case, daily affirmation is somewhat akin to the physical exercise reps of the mind – working in a very similar manner. But, if you’re finding that the standard phrasing isn’t entirely cutting it, you could even craft your own. All it takes is a few simple steps:
1.Try starting with the words ‘I am….’
2.Use present tense at first, expand to past and future as you get better.
3.Focus on positive improvement rather than eliminating the negative.
4.Keep it short and concise.
5.Always, always, always keep them about yourself.
For the best results, set a time for yourself every day – be it half an hour, an hour, or even just five minutes – to tell yourself the things you want for yourself by yourself. Your best hype-man will always be you, no doubt.
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